Healing Our Inner Narratives

by | Mar 28, 2024 | A New Outlook, Healing Tools | 1 comment

Dear cherished souls,

As I sit down to write this blog, I can’t help but feel a surge of empathy for the struggles we all face in this journey called life. I am speaking to you today as a fellow traveler on the path of healing and self-discovery. Side-by-side, we take this ride together.

Let’s first take a moment to reflect on the patterns of behavior that often emerge when the weight of the world bears down on our shoulders. Do you ever find yourself procrastinating, unable to make decisions, being impatient, being “over-confident” that you can do it all, without the help of others, or perhaps being overprotective of your loved ones? These tendencies, while they may seem like mere quirks of personality, often stem from deep-rooted wounds that we carry with us, often since childhood.

I know what it’s like to feel the sting of self-doubt, to hear the echoes of past hurts reverberating in the chambers of my heart. Growing up, I learned to be overprotective of my loved ones, fearing that any misstep could lead to their pain. In fact, I protected my perpetrators over my own well-being. But in my efforts to shield everyone from harm, I neglected to tend to the wounds within myself, which led to severe chronic illness.

And perhaps you, too, have felt the weight of old wounds dragging you down, whispering lies about your worth and your capabilities. But here’s the truth: you are not defined by your pain, nor are you bound by the patterns of behavior that have held you captive for so long.

It’s time to shine a light on the profound impact that healing old wounds can have on every aspect of our being—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and energetically. The pain we carry from past traumas isn’t just confined to our hearts and minds; it reverberates throughout our entire being, manifesting in ways both seen and unseen.

Scientific research has shown us time and again the powerful connection between our emotional well-being and our physical health. When we carry unresolved emotions—trapped energies from past hurts—they can manifest as physical symptoms such as anxiety, depression, tension headaches, chronic pain, and even dis-ease of the body. But by releasing these trapped emotions, we can free ourselves from the grip of pain and illness, allowing our bodies to return to a state of balance and harmony.

But the benefits of healing old wounds extend far beyond the physical realm. When we untangle the knots of past traumas, we liberate ourselves from the patterns of behavior that have held us back for so long. Suddenly, decisions become easier to make, procrastination gives way to action, and the need to control every outcome fades into the background.

On a mental and emotional level, healing old wounds opens the door to greater clarity and resilience. We no longer find ourselves mired in self-doubt or paralyzed by fear; instead, we get to approach life with a sense of confidence and inner peace. And spiritually and energetically, the release of trapped emotions allows us to reconnect with the divine essence that resides within us, tapping into a wellspring of love and light that knows no bounds.

I hear you: “Everything you’ve said so far sounds beautiful, but what does it mean for my real life? How do I begin to change the patterns of behavior that are holding me back and keeping me from living the life I crave?”

The answer is one step at a time, one day at a time. Reimagining YourSelf takes time. The key is to start. Say YES to you, and begin taking action.

Below are five courageous steps you can take to begin shedding the behaviors that are no longer serving your highest good, as you step more into your light and The truth of who you are (to watch a video on what “the truth of who you are” means, click here.)

  1. Honor Your Story: Take time each day to reflect on the behaviors that did not serve you that day.
    • Which behaviors held you back from speaking your truth?
    • Did any of your behaviors keep you playing it safe, instead of stepping into your power?
    • Which behaviors do you see as weak, or wish you “could have behaved differently with”?
    • Did any of your current behaviors bring up bad memories or triggers from any of your past relationships or family members?
    • Did you recognize a behavior that has puzzled you for years but you haven’t put much thought into why it exists or how/when it started?
    • Can you associate any of the behaviors with your past experiences and the stories you’ve been telling yourself?
    • After reflecting, take a few minutes to acknowledge the pain and the wounds that lie beneath the surface with each of the behaviors you recognized not serving you that day. This process alone will set you on the path of healing and changing the patterns and behaviors that you are ready to be free from.
  2. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this journey. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a dear friend who is hurting.
    • Look in the mirror each day and remind yourself that you are awesome and that the light within you shines brighter than the dark around you.
    • Hug yourself each day, reminding yourself that you are doing the best you can each day.
    • Pause and recognize if you have any blame, guilt, or shame around any of your patterns of behavior that you thought about in the above exercise. Acknowledge these emotions and release them from your body. Sometimes all your body needs to let go of the self-sabotage around your guilt and shame is to be acknowledged.
      • Tapping, crying, exercising, journaling, are a few ways to release the blame, shame, and guilt you may be experiencing.
      • This process is ongoing. Taking a “purposeful pause” each day to acknowledge these emotions is very powerful.
  3. Seek Support: You don’t have to walk this path alone.
    • Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a professional who can offer guidance and support along the way.
    • Join Meet-Up groups that help you create new behaviors and help you know that you are not alone.
    • Seek spiritual support in whatever way fills your soul with love and joy.
  4. Explore Healing Modalities:
    • Electromagnetic Desensitization
    • Therapy
    • Transcendental meditation
    • Energy work
    • Tapping
    • Do your research and tap into the program/modality that resonates most deeply with you.
  5. Cultivate Mindfulness: Cultivate a practice of mindfulness to help you stay present and grounded as you navigate the ups and downs of the healing journey.
    • Meditation
    • Yoga
    • Practice Purposeful Pauses: Take moments throughout the day to pause, breathe, recognize, and acknowledge what your behaviors are telling you.
    • Ground yourself by stepping outside periodically throughout the day when you notice you are exhibiting a specific behavior that isn’t serving your highest good.
    • Mindfulness can help you stay connected to your inner wisdom and guidance.

Remember, healing is not a linear process. There will be ups and downs, moments of clarity, and moments of confusion. But with each step forward, you are reclaiming the light that has always burned brightly within you.

With love and light,